TWC 20111103: Who’s Looking After Your Kids?

Thursday 3 November 2011

I remember telling my friends back in the late 80’s that parents who are too busy with work and leave most of the child-raising to foreign domestic helpers will reap unpleasant fruits – and we will see the detrimental effects of the over-use of foreign domestic helpers within 10 to 15 years. (I am not saying that we should all do away with foreign domestic helpers but we should be careful how we deploy them.) Since I started fulltime pastoral ministry in 1995, I have seen many cases, in fact, an increasing number of cases of teenagers rebelling against authority of any kind including parental authority. My father served in a family service centre for a couple of years in the 90’s. He counselled many families with dysfunctional kids and teenagers. I typed all his reports and observed that every one of these families had parents who were very busy at work and who had left the primary care of their kids with other care-givers including foreign domestic helpers, grandparents and even private tutors! My conclusion then was that every dysfunctional kid had parents who were too busy for them though by God’s grace, not every family with busy parents had dysfunctional kids. I believe God’s intention is for parents to be the primary care-givers to our own children. While there may be occasional exceptions, I believe that when we as parents do our part and be the primary care-givers to our kids, we give them a better foundation for life. As you begin your day today, ask the Lord for His wisdom and strength to be the parents God intends for you to be, and parents your children and teenagers need you to be. Have a God-filled day!

The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.” (Prov.29:15)

Pastor Barnabas Chong
Email us at todaysword@cairnhillchurch.com

Today’s recommended video: Great programme on how to communicate with your kids.

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TWC 20111102: Dad, I Need You

Wednesday 2 November 2011

The apostle Paul tells fathers not to exasperate our children, instead to bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. We exasperate our kids when we apply too much pressure on them and expect too much from them. Our kids are also exasperated when we do not have time for them. One of the biggest problems teenagers face today is isolation. With parents busy working in the office, many teenagers grow up with too few Christian role models in their lives and they usually end up spending most of their time in the company of domestic helpers and friends. Unfortunately, they don’t always get the best influence from such company. Fathers are the spiritual leaders at home and we need to take the lead in raising kids. We need to be a godly example to them, and we need to spend time teaching them and showing them the ways of the Lord. The Christian faith must be caught and not just taught. As we begin our day today, let us (fathers) ask the Lord for grace to help us take time to lead and guide our kids and teenagers in the ways of the Lord – to teach them and show them the way that leads to life. Have a great day!

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” (Eph.6:4)

Pastor Barnabas Chong
Email us at todaysword@cairnhillchurch.com

Today’s recommended video: Dad, I’ll need you ….

TWC 20111101: On Husbands and Wives Again …

Tuesday 1 November 2011

The Bible says, “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.”  This instruction by the apostle Paul is all about submitting to loving and sacrificial leadership. Jesus loves the church and gave His life to redeem us from our sins and to present us holy and unblemished to the Father. Thus, the instruction here is for wives to submit to loving and sacrificial husbands whose main concern is to present their wives holy and unblemished before the Lord. Thus, when submission leads to sin and suffering, then wives are free not to submit. But if submission does not lead to sin and suffering, then a wife must submit to her husband even if she does not agree with her husband’s view and decision, even if she does not feel like doing so. Yet, a loving husband is never unreasonable and does not lord it over his wife, treating her like a servant or slave. As you begin your day today, is there something that you ought to submit to your husband about and have not done so? If so, why not trust and obey God’s Word and submit to your husband? Blessing is preceded by obedience. As you obey God’s Word, God will certainly bless you. Have a great day!

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” (Eph.5:22)

Pastor Barnabas Chong
Email us at todaysword@cairnhillchurch.com

Today’s recommended video: I find this view of submission from a lady rather interesting and something we should consider in our attempt to understand more about biblical submission of wives to husbands ….

TWC 20111031: On Husbands and Wives

Monday 31 October 2011

The Bible says husbands should love our wives just as Christ loved the church and gave His life for her. This is all about unconditional and sacrificial love. Jesus gave His life for the church to present the church holy and unblemished, likewise husbands should give our lives to present our wives holy and unblemished before the Lord. One way to do that is to be willing to eat the humble pie first every time the two of you are unhappy with each other. In most, if not all disagreements and quarrels, there is probably something you can and should apologize for. Well, go ahead and be the first to apologize. And do not apologize saying, “I’m sorry, I was wrong BUT …” – no “but’s”, just apologize. Don’t even say sorry expecting her to apologize for her part too. You worry about what you ought to do and let God worry about what she ought to do. Be sincere and truly sorry, then just leave the rest to God. I can assure you, God will never let you down as you, the husband and spiritual leader in your family do what is right before God. Well, as you begin today, is there something you should apologize to your wife for? If there is, don’t wait any longer, just do it! Have a great day!

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Eph.5:25)

Pastor Barnabas Chong
Email us at todaysword@cairnhillchurch.com

Today’s recommended video: Skit Guys – Adam and Eve ….

TWC 20111030: Everyday Church in the Marketplace

Sunday 30 October 2011

Besides being a good witness in the marketplace so that those who do not know the Lord may see a life lived for Jesus and be impacted by what they see, the Christian in the marketplace must also be engaged in the ministry of strengthening fellow believers. The author of Hebrews tells us that believers should meet together regularly to stir up one another to love and good works. We need to stir up one another to love God and love people more. Church life for a large majority of Christians is confined to Sunday mornings and for some, a weekday cell group meeting as well. But if believers can get together in the office and build up each other’s faith, then church life is extended into the weekdays! Wouldn’t it be great to have pockets of believers all over the CBD actively encouraging and strengthening one another the entire work week? If five groups of believers in five different business offices can work together to take turns to host five lunchtime fellowship meetings every week (from Mon to Fri), then there will be church everyday in the CBD! It would be very similar to the New Testament church where believers came together daily and devoted themselves to the apostles’ teachings, to one another, to prayer, breaking of bread, worship, etc. When non-believers see this amazing love we have for one another, they will know that we are His disciples. In fact, if you’re reading this and feel inspired to host one of these weekly meetings, I’ll be quite happy to coordinate this and find pastors to speak at these meetings! How about that?

“Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.” (Ac.2:46,47)

Pastor Barnabas Chong
Email us at todaysword@cairnhillchurch.com

Today’s recommended video: Everyday, it’s You I live for  ….

TWC 20111029: Temptations in the Marketplace

Saturday 29 October 2011

Peter says, “Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour”, and this certainly applies to the marketplace as well. The devil is always seeking opportunities to destroy both believers and non-believers in the marketplace. His agenda is always to keep us from knowing God and when he fails at that, he will do his utmost to keep us from fulfilling God’s destiny for our lives. He deceives us into telling lies and half truths, tempts us to steal (including stealing someone else’s idea and making it our own) and draws us into unholy relationships (including adulterous relationships). The Christian in the marketplace must stay far away from all these and other temptations by reading and obeying God’s Word daily, staying connected to godly company (Christian fellowship) and praying in the Spirit at all times. Are you succumbing to or overcoming temptations in your workplace? As you begin your day today, pray and ask the Lord to help you to submit to God and resist the devil. Ask the Lord to restore, confirm, strengthen and establish you for the work in the marketplace that He has called you to.

Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” (1Pet.5:6,7)

Pastor Barnabas Chong
Email us at todaysword@cairnhillchurch.com

Today’s recommended video: Daddies never crumble in a day, it’s a slow fade ….

Slow Fade by Casting Crowns
Be careful little eyes what you see
It’s the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings
Be careful little feet where you go
For it’s the little feet behind you that are sure to follow

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
It’s a slow fade, it’s a slow fade

Be careful little ears what you hear
When flattery leads to compromise, the end is always near
Be careful little lips what you say
For empty words and promises lead broken hearts astray

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day

The journey from your mind to your hands
Is shorter than you’re thinking
Be careful if you think you stand
You just might be sinking

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
Daddies never crumble in a day
Families never crumble in a day

Oh be careful little eyes what see
Oh be careful little eyes what you see
For the Father up above is looking down in love
Oh be careful little eyes what you see

TWC 20111028: Praying in the Marketplace

Friday 28 October 2011

If you really want to make a difference in the marketplace, if you really want to be a strong godly influence, if you really want to show and tell Jesus effectively, then what you need is not more talk or activity but more prayer! Prayer moves mountains. While prayer appears to be an exercise of inactivity, but it actually raises the activity of heaven. Throughout the Bible and throughout church history, God’s people have experienced the power of God every time they prayed. The children of Israel prayed and God delivered them from slavery in Egypt. Elijah prayed and God sent fire from heaven. Hannah prayed and God gave her baby Samuel. Paul and Silas prayed and God sent an earthquake. Charles Finney prayed and people were falling on their knees in repentance even before the services started. John Wesley prayed and God gave him over a hundred and twenty thousand Methodists. As you begin your day today, why not pray for the people in your office and ask the Lord to give you opportunities to touch their lives with His love and truth? While you’re at it, why not grab a few other believers in your office and pray together regularly for God to move in your workplace? Have a great day!

“When Daniel knew that the document had been signed, he went to his house where he had windows in his upper chamber open toward Jerusalem. He got down on his knees three times a day and prayed and gave thanks before his God, as he had done previously.” (Dan.6:10)

Pastor Barnabas Chong
Email us at todaysword@cairnhillchurch.com

Today’s recommended video: The skinny on prayer ….