Thursday 3 November 2011
I remember telling my friends back in the late 80’s that parents who are too busy with work and leave most of the child-raising to foreign domestic helpers will reap unpleasant fruits – and we will see the detrimental effects of the over-use of foreign domestic helpers within 10 to 15 years. (I am not saying that we should all do away with foreign domestic helpers but we should be careful how we deploy them.) Since I started fulltime pastoral ministry in 1995, I have seen many cases, in fact, an increasing number of cases of teenagers rebelling against authority of any kind including parental authority. My father served in a family service centre for a couple of years in the 90’s. He counselled many families with dysfunctional kids and teenagers. I typed all his reports and observed that every one of these families had parents who were very busy at work and who had left the primary care of their kids with other care-givers including foreign domestic helpers, grandparents and even private tutors! My conclusion then was that every dysfunctional kid had parents who were too busy for them though by God’s grace, not every family with busy parents had dysfunctional kids. I believe God’s intention is for parents to be the primary care-givers to our own children. While there may be occasional exceptions, I believe that when we as parents do our part and be the primary care-givers to our kids, we give them a better foundation for life. As you begin your day today, ask the Lord for His wisdom and strength to be the parents God intends for you to be, and parents your children and teenagers need you to be. Have a God-filled day!
“The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.” (Prov.29:15)
Pastor Barnabas Chong
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Today’s recommended video: Great programme on how to communicate with your kids.